Talking About Emotions

One of the strongest predictors of health and well-being is emotional intelligence, characterized by the ability to recognize, manage, and communicate effectively around one’s own emotions and those of others. 

Benefits associated with constructive emotional expression include better physical health, strengthened interpersonal relationships, reduced stress levels, lower levels of loneliness, higher self-esteem, improved decision making and problem-solving skills, and stronger concentration and job performance, as well as reduced absenteeism from work.

Yet with so many compelling reasons to focus on building emotional intelligence and incorporating emotional expression into daily life, many continue to underprioritize or side-step this health and wellness initiative. 

Most men in North America report that they are punished for expressing their emotions, even if they believe it is important to do so. The social consequences lead many men to suppress emotions rather than express them. 

Suppressive behaviors include changing one’s demeanor to appear more masculine, holding back tears to preserve the masculinity image, and avoiding talking to others about a difficult problem. These behaviors may be linked to some of the grimmer data around high rates of suicidality, depression, and burnout within the trades. 

The hopeful news is that change is possible and emotional intelligence can be cultivated. It is important to start by committing to overcoming personal barriers that limit emotional expression, such as internalized stigma or shame. Weighing the potential rewards of routine and consistent emotional expression against the potential costs can be a useful tool for encouraging a pivot in how you approach emotional health. 

As the holiday season approaches, a time that traditionally symbolizes human connection, we are especially well positioned to consider the how’s and why’s of beginning to make communication around feelings a more central theme in our daily lives. 

If you or a loved one needs help, or would like more information about this topic, please call MAP for free, confidential support at 1-833-MAP-TALK, Monday through Friday from 8 a.m. to 7 p.m. EST.